The Pros And Cons Of Dating When You Are Over Forty

The Pros And Cons Of Dating When You Are Over Forty
Dating websites and mobile applications have transformed the matchmaking process over the past decade. Gone are the days of hanging around at a crowded bar checking out random strangers, hoping to buy someone a drink, and strike up a conversation. It becomes more challenging for men and women to find someone and really hit it off with a complete stranger as after a certain age, priorities, and preferences set for dating change.

However, in this thought process, one tends to forget that there are certain benefits of dating men and women in their forties. You will face problems and situations that might prompt you to ask the question whether it is really worth your time. But it is important to remember that like any relationship, dating has its pros and cons.

Here are some common pros and cons of dating when you are over forty discussed in brief.

Pros

Mature relationships– With age comes wisdom and maturity in a relationship that is hard to come across when you were in your teens and early twenties. The decision making is more evolved, your feelings are taken into account, and you will have had over a decade of experience to contribute to the relationship.

Build a life– Dating in your early twenties when you have just stepped out in the world to handle a stressful career can take a toll on your personal and professional life. However, the experience is different when you have had the time to build a life for yourself, especially, one that you can share with your potential partner. You will be in a better place emotionally and financially. Remember, it is never too late to try anything.

Time– When you are involved in the constant money-making rat race from your early twenties going right up to your late thirties to build a life and a career of your choice, time is a luxury. However, you will be in a better position to manage your time and priorities after having spent over two decades of your life building a professional career and a stable future. There is no pressure on you to make things happen as your expectations are more realistic this time.

Cons

Set in your ways– While you would have had the time to make something of your life before you decide to share it with someone, in your 40’s you might be pretty set in your ways and not everyone will be open to change. Change is imminent, but you may have trouble embracing the fact that it might disrupt your lifestyle to make room for someone you have met recently.

The balance of power– Both of you will be mature enough to understand the responsibility and might want to take charge. However, the tussle between two partners to figure out who is in charge can crack the very foundation on which your relationship is based, only to regain power and assert dominance. Neither of you may budge without putting up a good argument or a fight for that matter. Dating can be affected significantly in this tussle.

Commitment– Like in every dating scenario, there may be a chance that one of the partners is looking forward to a longer commitment, in terms of marriage, then the other. This may lead to friction that may affect the prospects of a blossoming relationship.